What if Criticism Didn't Shake You?

Imagine this:

Your partner says you’ve let them down.
Your boss tells you she’s disappointed in your performance.
Your child calls you a bad parent.

Instead of feeling hurt, angry, or rushing to defend yourself…

You breathe.
You ground in your complete wholeness.
You listen with curiosity.

You ask calm questions.
You decide—internally—what to own and what is not yours.

For many of us, this response to feedback or criticism feels impossible. 

Not that long ago, I was like a dandelion puff—the slightest critique took me apart. 

I thought my defensiveness was about them (How DARE they, amiright?), but really, it was about me.

It was about my own low self worth and inability to feel hard feelings.

My shaky relationship to MYSELF made all feedback feel like an attack.

Because *I* was already so hard on myself, any perceived ‘attack’ felt like a potential annihilation of my very self.

Feedback felt like CONFIRMATION of the fears I already had about myself.

When we are not secure in our complete lovability and worth, we unintentionally give authority about WHO we are to other people. 

We let them be the judge, jury and executioner on our goodness, our capability, our lovability.

So, what can you do if you find yourself defensive and highly emotional when someone in your life gives your feedback?

You can completely change how you respond to feedback and criticism by transforming your relationship with YOURSELF.

Oh, it’s a win-win. 

Trust me.

When you know—deep in your bones—that you are WORTHY and WHOLE and LOVABLE (and that you always have been, always will be and *nothing* can ever change this fact), feedback loses its power over you. 

You stop spiraling into shame and blame. 

You become free.

Imagine what is possible for you then.

P.S. If you are looking for support in improving your relationship with yourself while also tackling courageous life and career goals, hop on a consult with me. I will walk you through a process to determine if I can help you with your goals as well as creating an unshakable relationship with yourself (which, I argue, is one of the most CRITICAL and WORTHY pursuits - upon which all else rests).