What (True) Power Is and Why You Need It.

First, let’s talk about how we are defining power and why it’s a critical ingredient for a fulfilled life. 

Many people (especially those socialized as women or marginalized in society) may resist the idea of embracing power, because it’s traditionally been defined by those who’ve amassed and wielded it (who have historically been white men) as power and control OVER others. 

This kind of power has been used AGAINST many of us (any of us who are marginalized for our identities) for hundreds of years. I define this version of power (‘power OVER’) as abusive power. 

This distorted view of power has caused many of us to resist the idea of claiming our own power. 

Here’s a different definition to try on. I’m defining power as the ability to create what you want in your life. 

Imagine feeling powerful (e.g. fully capable) to create anything you want in your life: a healthy and loving partnership, a fulfilling career, a successful startup, a lasting legacy, generational wealth that not only changes your life but the lives of your kids, a peaceful home, a happy relationship with family members, an excitement to get out of bed in the morning and a sense of satisfaction when you lay your head down at night.

I’m a heck YES. 

And here’s the great news: Humans innately have power. We’re born with it. Anyone who’s interacted with a two-year-old can see this natural human orientation.

We simply become disconnected from it over time through socialization, life experiences and what we learn to BELIEVE we’re capable of (which is almost always WAY less than our actual potential).

Here are some clues that you’re disconnected from your power: You’re people-pleasing in at least one area of life. You experience imposter syndrome at work. You take steps to change your life and then experience overwhelming self-doubt and stop. Your mind overanalyzes every decision and interaction.

The biggest sign? Someone asks you what you want and you hear crickets in your brain. 

There are many ways to reclaim your power. Coaching is one of the most effective ways that I’ve found.

If you want to reclaim your power, come work with me! I’m currently accepting 1:1 coaching clients for 3-12 months who want to reconnect to what matters most to them, change what they believe is possible and powerfully create a life of their design.